Archive | March 2016

Dealing with Blogging Insecurity

I’m going to admit that I’ve been having a difficult time with blogging lately. I’ve hit the point where I feel like I’m floundering. I want to keep blogging. I absolutely will keep blogging. Most of the time I’m very happy with blogging. But sometimes it is difficult to talk into the void.

It’s so very easy to question myself. Am I saying anything that matters? Am I saying anything that people care about? Am I just spending my time only for people to ignore me entirely? Will I ever get anything out of this blog? (Anything meaning money, publication, connections, friendship, heck a good discussion counts too.)

Then I remember that yes, I have already gotten some things out of this blog. I poured my heart out with my I Remember, I Remember post and love poured back, not just here, but on Facebook as well. All of this was worth it to me in that moment.

Blogging can really dredge up your insecurity, let me tell you. Daniela Uslan sent out an email earlier this month touching on the dark side of blogging. Of getting caught up in stats and formulas and forgetting why you are blogging at all. It made me think about this. It made me think about my little spot of the internet that I have here.

I blog because I have something to say. I know that every time I speak through a post I run the risk that no one will care. I also know I run the chance that someone will. Or a lot of someones. All I can blog about is what is on my mind and hope for the best while (somehow) not doubting my voice or my topics or the way my blog looks or what other people say – or don’t say – or anything else. It can be so very, very overwhelming and stressful. Especially when huddling at the feet of other, very successful bloggers whom you admire.

To anyone who has ever read a post here, thank you.

To anyone who has ever interacted with me here, thank you.

To anyone who will ever drop by in the future, thank you.

You’re my little reminders not to give up on the hard days. Things might be a little quiet around here throughout April and May, but I’m working hard to bring you lots of exciting content of many varieties for the rest of the year. 

Stick around! I’ve spent a year getting my feet under me around here (as well as several years at other blogs previous), and I’m ready to charge forward with new content. If you have particular suggestions of things you’d like to see me blog about, please drop a comment over here to tell me about it and I’ll see what I can do!


Never Say Never

Honestly this isn’t bad advice for life, but I think it is even more appropriate for artists of all kinds. Never say you will never try out a different form of your art.

swings, two swingsIn 2011, I wrote a piece I called “Swing Set Sonnet”. I loved the title then and still do now. I will freely admit I’m addicted to alliteration. It happens without me even thinking about it. (I even promise my admission was not alliterated on purpose!) But I forced the image I had to work within the constraints of a sonnet – something it firmly did not want to do – all because I loved my title. This was an awful idea. Instead of letting my poem find the form it needed, I bullied it into being something that could never work. Continue reading

Refueling Creativity

Sometimes I don’t feel like writing. It has nothing to do with time or my day job or family and household responsibilities (though those things do stand in my way more often than I should allow). It has everything to do with my creative well running dry.

When my creative well starts pulling up more sand than water, no amount of dedicated butt-in-chair writing time will fix it. The creative fuel I burn when writing is generated almost solely by other creative pursuits. Continue reading

Planning Blog Content (Including Questions for YOU!)

POLL (If you are a reader or are considering becoming a reader of this blog and have a moment for a comment, I would very much appreciate you!)

In several states across the US today we are busy voting for the presidential nominee we like best (or in some cases just trying to vote OUT the one that makes us cringe the most) to see who will be the final runners for the election later this year. I’ll be voting later today myself.

But for now, I’m brainstorming content for the upcoming several months on my blog.

Already-made Decisions:

I will be picking up my “Quest to Tidy” series again within the next few months. I am working on starting a series of shorter posts about inspiration. I will also continue talking about writing and the process of trying to get published. But I’m trying to decide what other sort of content readers would like to see.

I want to make it not only fun around here, but perhaps start a few good conversations along the way.


– More “Me, Em, and Grim” posts where my friend Grim participates in daily household life. I’ve only ever done one post on this, at least partially due to the low poseability of my current Grim, but I am still fond of the idea and I could definitely do more. (If you know of a full sized Grim that’s a bit more poseable please link me!)

– I’ve considered starting a “Ruined Poets” series, discussing the common poets that are brought up in school and how school nearly ruined it for me and, it seems, a lot of us. Several of these poets I have rediscovered away from the classroom and in doing so ended up loving them. Are you interested? If so, do you have poets to suggest to me? What would you want posts for such a series to contain?

– I am also considering beginning a series of book reviews on older books that are interesting or odd. This takes some time though, so I’m curious if there is any interest in this.

– Any other ideas? I am happy to do more picture-based posts, but I’m not sure what readers would like to see. I could talk more about children’s books, my second love. I truly want to hear your suggestions as far as what you would enjoy reading around here because I want to shape this blog for you. I definitely have some of my own ideas in mind and will keep working on them, but the creative well is running a bit dry and the inner editor is worrying herself about what to write, so please, drop a comment below and let me know!